What to Expect After Giving Birth
Being pregnant and giving birth are two of the most miraculous things a woman’s body can do. It is an incredible journey, and if you’re like most, you probably had some difficult and joyful times.
Growing a baby is one of the most amazing feelings as a mother. Even if you are super sick, which I was for several months, it is still crazy to think that you are growing a little human inside your body.
The experience of giving birth, well that was something I thought I was prepared for, but I wasn’t.
I have given birth by both c-section and vaginal birth and let me be the first to tell you that neither was EASY!
There are so many people who want to argue that c-section isn’t the same as giving birth. DUH! Two completely different experiences with the same result. Pretty sure that means both are considered giving birth.
Regardless of how your baby came into this world, every birthing momma experiences a lot of postpartum change and that is what I want to share with you.
Each birth is different. Mine has been completely different simply because I have given birth both ways. My deliveries were different, and my recoveries were different as well, as one would expect.
So, what to expect after giving birth? Great question!
I will share some of my postpartum recovery tips in hopes of helping you to have an easier recovery.
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What to Expect After Giving Birth
At this point in your life, you are likely very familiar with hormonal changes. Every month you aren’t pregnant, you likely experience some really great mood swings around your period. Not fun, I know.
During your pregnancy, you probably had a lot of hormone stuff going on as well. Chances are you experienced fear and anxiety about all of the unknown. Would your baby be healthy? Would you be able to give birth the way you planned? Are you going to be able to handle all of it?
Giving birth is a lot of work, no matter how it happens. There is a lot that goes into it physically, but there is an equal amount of emotional adjustment as well.
The best way to handle it is to be prepared for a roller coaster ride.
Figuring out what you’re supposed to do with your baby once they have entered the world can be a lot to handle.
If it feels like your emotions are really out of whack, reach out to someone. Whether it be your spouse, your friend, or your doctor, let someone know that you need help. Postpartum depression is a real thing, and it can become a serious medical concern.
There is nothing to be ashamed of!
When we were dealing with colic, I think I dealt with a bit of postpartum depression. There was nothing worse at that time than feeling like I couldn’t care for my baby. I was very careful to make sure that things didn’t go sideways emotionally. And if they had, I would’ve sought medical help.
If you’re planning to nurse, make sure you have some idea of what you’re getting yourself into. You need to know the basics of what that experience is going to be like to have the best success. Talk with the nurses and get all the help you can from the lactation consultants before going home.
Nursing by far was one of the most exhausting things for me emotionally as a new mom. I wanted to make sure my baby was getting enough, and I needed to recover. Those two things are hard considering your uterus is contracting every time you nurse for the first few days, AND your nipples feel like they have been mutilated by this little human. OUCH!
Prepare your spouse and yourself for some hormonal changes after pregnancy. Lack of sleep, learning a lot of new things about yourself and your baby is enough to make anyone feel a bit crazy. Hang in there!
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Just when you thought you were done looking like you were pregnant… and you still look like you’re 5 months pregnant.
In case no one has told you yet, your belly doesn’t just disappear right after giving birth. In fact, it may hang out for a while. With my c-section, it took a lot longer to go down than it did with my vaginal birth. I don’t know if that is because I was more active quicker after my vaginal delivery (it was a VBAC) or not.
Even now, I still have a bit of a “pooch”. I am working on it, but I know a lot of people have told me that it doesn’t matter what they did to get rid of it, it still hangs out there.
The bottom line is not to be shocked if you still look pregnant for a bit after giving birth! If you’re lucky, it will disappear quickly.
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This is the WORST!!! Ok, let me explain. I had a baby who had colic for 5 months and it was awful. I have seriously never been more exhausted in my entire life. When your baby is inconsolable most of the day and sleeps for 1-2 HOURS EACH DAY, it’s hard.
However, thank the Lord most babies sleep more than that. I went back to work after having my first, and we didn’t have to deal with colic. We established a sleeping routine that worked. I would nurse throughout the night and right before I left. Then I would pump throughout the day.
It can be a tough thing to do in the first couple of weeks, but if you can establish a wake-sleep routine with your baby, it will be incredibly helpful for you, as you’ll likely be getting more sleep. I know a lot of people try the cycle of wake, eat, play, sleep.
We did something like that.
Find something that works for your family and stick with that until it doesn’t work anymore.
If your baby isn’t sleeping, and you aren’t getting enough sleep, you need to ask for help. Have someone come over and sit with your baby while you rest. Bad things can happen when you become too sleep deprived. The last thing you would want is for something to happen to you or your baby simply because you weren’t getting enough sleep.
You’ll likely hear the word golf balls and think, “What does that have to do with me giving birth?”
Well, you might pass blood clots the size of golf balls after giving birth.
It sounds crazy, but, just think, you passed a tiny human through there, what’s a golf ball?
Postpartum bleeding is different for everyone, and it will be different for each birth.
I didn’t have near the amount of bleeding with my c-section as I did with my vaginal delivery. Why might you ask? When you have a c-section, they clear that stuff out a lot better during surgery than your body does naturally at the time of vaginal birth.
So then, after birth, it is your body’s job to get rid of that stuff.
Here are some suggestions of things to add to your postpartum care kit to help you deal with bleeding after giving birth.
- Padsicles. Yes, they are a real thing and I would recommend you prepare some in advance. All I did was take a regular pad, you can decide which one you want, add some water to the pad and lay it flat in the freezer. Once you’re home from delivering your baby, you can put those right in your underwear for pain relief. I know a lot of people will put essential oils on there as well to aid in healing and discomfort, but make sure you do some research before using essential oils.
- Use the free stuff they gave you from the hospital after giving birth. I was using witch hazel pads and a peri bottle. Both things helped me to feel cleaner despite all the bleeding.
If you find that you all the sudden start bleeding more than you had been. Think about what you were doing right before it happened. I know there were times when I would start doing too much and my body would tell me that by bleeding more than it had been. This is one of those things not to do after giving birth. Listen to your body and don’t overdo it.
After birth recovery is different for everyone, so to give an exact amount of time you’ll have postpartum bleeding is impossible. It can last anywhere from a few days up to 6 weeks. It should obviously be getting lighter, but it still might be there.
Don’t be afraid to call your doctor and ask questions. If something doesn’t feel right about your postpartum bleeding, call and ask the medical staff. That’s what they’re there for.
I really don’t think there is anything that can completely prepare you for what breastfeeding is really going to be like. It takes a toll on your body physically, emotionally, and mentally.
There will be times, in fact probably many times, that you are going to doubt yourself and you’ll want to quit. Keep going and keep trying. Sure, you 100% need to make sure your baby is getting fed and that should be your priority. But keep trying.
I recommend that you either take a class, spend some time with someone who has nursed a baby or two or read some books about breastfeeding. There is a lot of information out there, and you need to find it. There are different latch positions, different things to aid you if your baby won’t latch right, and all sorts of things to watch for if your baby is getting the amount of milk they should.
Make sure you get some really great nursing bras once your milk comes in. I wrote an entire post about what you should look for when buying a nursing bra, as well as when to shop. I also give some great recommendations in case you’re still unsure.
Have the lactation consultant come in as much as you need to before you’re discharged from the hospital. Check with your insurance company before you deliver and find out what services they offer free of charge. Many insurances want nursing moms to be successful, so they offer lactation consultants as part of their services for free.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. One of the biggest things you can do for yourself before giving birth and breastfeeding is to know that it probably won’t be easy. Easy, no. Worth it, YES!!
Postpartum Care Kit
- Pain medication– I went back and forth between two they recommended, so I didn’t have a lapse in pain medication for the first few days.
- Snacks– You’ll get hungry and you won’t want to move much.
- Water– You need to stay hydrated whether you’re nursing or not. It’s important that your bladder is filling and emptying itself.
- Pads for heavy flow– These are a must!
- Pillows for support– I liked having pillows all around me. It’s also good to have a pillow to hold onto for sneezing or coughing. I would pull the pillow into my belly so that the movement wasn’t as sudden after my c-section.
- A chair you can get in and out of easily– If you had a c-section, moving isn’t easy after you’ve had major surgery. Make sure you have something with arms so that you can push yourself up more easily. For what it’s worth, I slept in the recliner for a week or two, simply because it was the easiest place to get in and out of. I couldn’t sleep in my bed because getting up by myself was nearly impossible.
- Nursing pillow if you plan to nurse– Having a pillow that will position your baby where they need to be for a successful nursing session.
- Ice packs for your incision/ lower lady parts– I LOVED MY ICE PACKS! I really hated to take any pain meds because I was nursing, but I had just had major surgery and I needed to take care of myself. Ice is what allowed me to only take minimal pain meds for just a few days.
- Belly Wrap– These are AMAZING! I was given one at the hospital and I wore it a lot. You can buy them online if you either didn’t get one at the hospital or if you want something a bit more supportive. Even if you had a vaginal birth, a lot of postpartum women will wear them in hopes of getting rid of their baby pooch more quickly.
- Colace or some brand of stool softener (check with your doctor first)- Pooping after giving birth is terrible. It doesn’t matter if you have a c-section or a vaginal delivery, it’s awful. Colace for the first week or so will make your bowel movements a little more bearable. Though I will say that a tear or two may have been shed.
- Nursing Pads– Even if you aren’t going to nurse, your milk will still come in. A lot of women will leak until their milk dries up, or you may need them while nursing. Make sure you have a box on hand just in case.
- Nursing bras and tanks– You’ll want to make sure you’re clothes are comfortable if you do plan to breastfeed. Make sure that your clothes are easily accessible, especially for the first few weeks. I share a lot of awesome information about nursing bras here!
- High-waist panties– If you had a c-section, you’ll need underwear that sits above your incision. You can’t have underwear that sits on your incision. First, that would be incredibly painful, but second, that would really deter healing.
- Your postpartum recovery timeline is going to be different than your previous births and your friends’ births. Give your body the time it needs to heal. Seriously. Don’t think you feel “good”, and then overdo it. You’ll delay your recovery time.
- What not to do? Don’t have intercourse or begin a rigorous workout routine until after your 6-week postpartum check. You’ll want to make sure everything has healed the way it should, and I would have to believe you don’t want to be pregnant going into your postpartum check. Yikes!
- Figure out your time off work before giving birth. Make sure you have made the proper arrangements with your employer so that you don’t have to worry about it after giving birth. Your time will be consumed with taking care of yourself and that sweet little baby.
- You will be up and be walking after giving birth. It doesn’t matter how your baby came into this world, they’ll have you up and want you to walk as soon as possible. The medical staff wants to make sure everything is working before they send you home. Once you’re home, don’t overdo it. I was up and moving more after my vaginal delivery versus my c-section, but I was still up and moving.
- Postpartum care for mother and baby is going to look different for each person. Figure out what is going to work for you and do it. If you had an easier recover the first time and this round isn’t going so easy, that’s ok too. You’re now taking care of two little humans.
- Here are some other awesome postpartum recovery tips from Cindy @ Living for the Sunshine!
How long does it take to recover after giving birth?
I have heard that it takes 3 years until your body truly feels like you have recovered from giving birth. Now, obviously you’ll begin feeling more like yourself much sooner than that, and your body can get back into shape long before then. But, it just goes to show that taking 40 weeks to grow a tiny human means your body isn’t just going to bounce back to the way it was before giving birth in a super short time frame. Your body needs time to recover.
As I’m sure you’ve figured out by now, giving birth is a big deal. There is a lot that goes into growing a tiny human, and there is a lot that goes into recovering from birthing a tiny human.
Give yourself time to heal. Don’t do something you’re going to wish you hadn’t. Listen to your body and ask for help when you need to. At the end of the day, everyone wants a healthy mom and a healthy baby.
What postpartum tips would you share with new moms?
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