What It’s REALLY Like to be a Stay at Home Mom
On any given day, someone would look around my house and think, “She’s home all day long with her kids, how can her house be this messy?”
I mean, after all, stay at home moms have it “easy”.
I often look around my house and think the same thing.
I look around and think, “I’ve been here all day and I feel like I’ve accomplished nothing.”
It’s frustrating, to say the least, but then I have to sit down and think about how I spent my day as a stay at home mom.
I got up in the morning, after being woke up once, sometimes twice at night by my kids, and try to get myself together because there are littles who need my attention.
Oh, how I wish I were a coffee drinker, but it just isn’t my thing. I don’t really do caffeine, especially while nursing.
Here’s what a “typical” day looks like when you’re a stay at home mom.
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A day in the life of a stay at home mom!
I pull myself together, put my best face on, not literally of course because there isn’t much time for makeup these days, and point my attention to my kids.
I’m blessed to have my husband help with the kids in the morning. He usually takes care of breakfast, and then when I get up, I take over.
I may spend my day reading books, kissing boo-boo’s, or teaching my kids the alphabet.
It may involve playing make-believe doctor because one day, one of my kids may find the cure for cancer.
We may take a trip to the library to borrow books or for storytime or maybe go to the park to play.
Sometimes, we meet up with other moms and their kids because it’s important to have friends. One of the best things I have done for myself is to find a MOMS group that meets each week and they provide FREE childcare!
We try to limit the amount of TV the kids watch, but there are some days that the only way I can manage to get things done safely and in a timely manner without distractions is to let my kids watch a show for a mere 30 minutes.
Judge if you want, but sometimes that’s what happens.
Naptime, Sweet, Sweet Naptime
Naptime is essential because not only do they need rest, mom needs a sanity break.
Unfortunately, that sanity break can often be cut short by a sink full of dishes that need to be washed, loads of laundry that need to be folded, toys that need to be fixed, and the list could go on.
Somewhere in my day, I try to find a brief moment of time to do something for me. I have found this is essential for not getting caught up in becoming “my kids’ mom” but keeping my true identity of who I am as a person.
And on any given day, all of this “me” time could be cut short by a ‘no-napper’. Ahhh, those days are tough. (UPDATE: Not all my kids’ nap now! OUCH! It’s been an adjustment taking the time that was once mine and sharing it with other little people. I now use this time as “learning time” that is structured without a baby on the floor.)
There are days where my kids think that snack time is all the time. I try to remind myself that maybe they’re, “going through a growth spurt”, as I cut up an apple, peel a banana, or fill a bowl with goldfish.
Some days involve changing socks 3 and 4 times because they “got wet”. Other days it is complete outfits that need changed and washed because we didn’t make it to the toilet in time.
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And then a kid made a mess…
I. CHANGE. DIAPERS.
If I had a dollar for every diaper I have changed in my life, I may never have to work again. Wouldn’t that be nice?
Grass stains are a must when you play outside. There is no question that someone will end up dirty.
But isn’t that what being a kid is all about? Dirt makes a kid grow.
I make many trips to the potty, whether it be to give toilet paper, wipe a little bottom, or simply be moral support.
Those flushing things can cause chaos in my house.
Not to mention the times I may spend time digging things out of that lovely flushing machine.
We go for walks and talk about the things in the sky and in the grass.
There are helicopters, airplanes, and clouds to learn about. We talk about the moon and the stars, and why bees are so important for our food.
We dance and sing and enjoy all of the amazing things that songs can bring.
Of course, we can’t forget coloring! Staying between the lines, ha, that’s only for driving.
We scribble sometimes, just because we can.
And then, before we know it, it’s time to make dinner and prepare for daddy to get home.
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No Wonder People Wonder What I Do All Day!
It truly is no wonder that when my husband walks in the door, he can look around and think, “What did she do all day?”
But the reality is, I did A LOT.
I fed minds, and bodies, and spirits. It was my job to encourage little minds to grow, and fill hearts with love.
I harvested creative spirits and enjoyed the fruits of my labor.
There was time spent cleaning up kiddos so that rest could be restful.
I encouraged bravery and imagination.
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And these things will always surpass any worry of what my house looks like because, on any given day, my babies could be gone.
I would rather have healthy, happy, and loved children than a clean house with no laughter or joy.
You see, at the end of the day, these are the things that matter.
So please, walk into my home, and wonder what I did all day.
I too wonder that often.
But, when I look at my children, I know it’s all worth it.
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