10 Tips for Transitioning to Stay at Home Mom
Transitioning to stay at home mom isn’t all bon-bons and soap operas.
In fact, transitioning from being a working mom to a stay at home mom was almost just as challenging as transitioning to motherhood itself.
Being a stay at home mom is an incredible blessing, but it can also be exhausting mentally, physically, emotionally, and oftentimes even spiritually. My hope is that I can share my experiences with you and you find something that helps you settle in for your new journey as a stay at home mom.
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Transitioning from Working to SAHM
Schedule time for yourself- use quiet times.
Finding time to still be yourself is probably one of the most challenging things when you become a stay at home mom. Your entire day is now wrapped around your children.
From the time they wake up until the time they go to sleep, it often feels like someone needs something every single moment of the day. Then, when your husband comes home, you need to make sure you have dinner ready. Then comes bathtime, bedtime, and time for you and your husband if you know what I mean.
If you aren’t careful, you’ll lose yourself because your always meeting everyone else’s needs and not your own.
Find a way to make time for yourself every week. I am a realist and know that sometimes doing something for yourself every day can be a challenge.
Join a moms group.
One of the single best things I have done for myself is to join a local MOMS group.
Once a week during the school year I get to go have other women pour into me while my children are in FREE childcare.
IT’S AMAZING! And it’s a HUGE blessing.
Chances are, there is a MOMS type group somewhere near you and you need to find one and get yourself involved.
Even if you’re shy and your worried about your kids not liking it, they’ll eventually come around. Promise!
Get a zoo membership, museum membership, or aquarium membership.
Get out of your house. Find a local park, splash park, museum, zoo, aquarium, nature center, etc.
Find somewhere that you’re comfortable taking your kids and go. Let them have the chance to be around other kids.
If you have a crying baby, take them and let someone tell you how cute your baby is so that you can be reminded that you really do think they’re cute too despite the crying.
One of the things I missed most when transitioning to being a stay at home mom was getting out of the house every day. This will help!
Find a very part-time job.
Before we decided for me to stop being a working mom to become a stay at home mom, I had a very part-time direct sales business.
Turns out, this was perfect for me when making transitioning to a stay at home mom.
My part-time job let me still feel like a powerful woman (as if somehow natural childbirth didn’t do this?), allowed me to contribute to our finances, and gave me time out of the house to remind myself that aside from my kids I was still me.
Talk with your husband about what type of schedule you could work out to allow you to take the time for yourself.
Find a place to volunteer.
Even when your kids are little, there are probably places you can volunteer. Or you can even use your “me time” and go volunteer somewhere without the kids.
Find a local charitable organization, volunteer to play music at a nursing home, or even find a new place to start a program that can benefit your community.
There is always something or someone that can use your help.
Realize you still may not get it all done.
I’m sure you want to be Supermom and get everything done with a smile on your face- reality check- WAKE UP!
There is no such thing as a Supermom.
At the end of the day, get as much done around the house as you can, make a play date or two as you can, etc.
The biggest thing is that you’re taking care of your kids- feed them, bathe them, play with them, keep them safe.
That doesn’t sound so bad, right?
Set a schedule for yourself.
When I first started this stay at home thing, I only had one kiddo. But shortly thereafter, we found out I was pregnant.
Let me just say, life with one was so much easier than the craziness that came with our second.
One of the best things I did was to set a schedule.
Now, with a breastfeeding baby, I am fully aware that it can feel impossible to stick to a schedule.
But, for our oldest, having a schedule for the day made sense.
Things like watching a show, then playing for a while, having a snack, playing again, having lunch, doing a craft, etc.
You get the idea. Your schedule could look very different than mine, but creating a schedule may make your transition to being a stay at home mom less intimidating.
Trade childcare with another SAHM.
If you have another stay at home mom friend who you trust to watch your kids- trade childcare.
There will be days when you have errands to run and you know it would take a fraction of time to do them without the kids versus with the kids, ask your friend to trade childcare. Chances are, she has found herself in a similar situation and would be appreciative of the offer.
Make new SAHM friends.
When making the transition from working mom to SAHM, you may not know any other stay at home moms, which at times can feel isolating.
Lay down your pride, put yourself out there, and make a connection with someone.
If you attend church, ask around and see who else is staying at home with their kids.
Look around on Facebook, there are often MOM groups by city.
Go to a park a few times a week during the day, and you’ll find another stay at home mom.
They’re all around, you just have to find them.
Continue the expectation of having your husband help with things.
Guys, I love being a stay at home mom, but I cannot truly take care of our kids, and get EVERYTHING done around the house.
Being a stay at home mom has become my daytime job, and I still need my husband’s help as much as I did when I was a working mom.
Don’t set the bar crazy high for yourself only to realize you can’t do it all.
You also don’t want your husband to think you can do it all only to wonder why your frustrated, angry and an emotional trainwreck by the time the kids are in bed. This isn’t healthy for you, your kids, or your marriage.
Embrace the season of “stay at home mom life”.
There is a lot to be said about what happens when transitioning to stay at home mom. Some days it feels like a train wreck, ok, for a while, most days may feel like a train wreck. But, you’re doing it. You’re making this stay at home mom thing work.
Walking away from your working mom title oftentimes isn’t easy. Embrace this season of life and remember that it’s a season. If you choose to, you can always go back to work at any point in time. But give this stay at home mom thing a whirl before you give up on it. Who knows, you may end up liking it more than you think!
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